On nights like this I wear that dress you like and slow dance with your memory ~Lisa Bain A Coping Post This week, two families who are dear to my heart, are dealing with the worst milestone a griever can face: that first deathiversary. As I was checking in to … [Read more...] about Somatic Memory and Deathiversaries
Friends & Family
A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation: Widow to Widow
A Keeping It Real Post How is everyone holding up? Shit got real, fast, didn't it? I'm on Day 13 of isolation and won't lie; it's getting to me. I've already survived the worst thing in the world, so this is just something else to get through. But that knowledge doesn't … [Read more...] about A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation: Widow to Widow
A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation
A Keeping It Real Post Some mornings I wake up and wonder if I'm still asleep and dreaming. But this surreal world we're living in right now is very real. At the moment, I'm healthy but in self-quarantine and strictly social distancing since I'm a back-up … [Read more...] about A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation
Holding Space For The Bereaved, Part 2 (Widow to Widow)
A Keeping It Real Post Last week I wrote about what it meant for friends and family to hold space for the newly bereaved. Thank you for all the comments, private messages, and emails regarding this topic and your personal experiences. Holding Space is clearly a grief … [Read more...] about Holding Space For The Bereaved, Part 2 (Widow to Widow)
What It Means To Hold Space for the Bereaved
"Sometimes, I wonder if we ever truly let anyone completely in. The desire for another human being to know you, all of you, all the pieces, even the ones you're ashamed of — is huge. But too often, we sit down and sort through the pieces only picking out the pretty ones, … [Read more...] about What It Means To Hold Space for the Bereaved
When Love was Complicated, the Grief is Too
A Keeping It Real Post In the last 48 hours, the world's reaction to the news of Kobe Bryant's tragic death has gone from shock to sadness to anger. Many rape survivors are understandably angry at the collective outpouring of grief for this man, who seems to have gotten … [Read more...] about When Love was Complicated, the Grief is Too