A Keeping It Real Post How is everyone holding up? Shit got real, fast, didn't it? I'm on Day 13 of isolation and won't lie; it's getting to me. I've already survived the worst thing in the world, so this is just something else to get through. But that knowledge doesn't … [Read more...] about A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation: Widow to Widow
A Keeping It Real Post Last week I wrote about what it meant for friends and family to hold space for the newly bereaved. Thank you for all the comments, private messages, and emails regarding this topic and your personal experiences. Holding Space is clearly a grief … [Read more...] about Holding Space For The Bereaved, Part 2 (Widow to Widow)
"Sometimes, I wonder if we ever truly let anyone completely in. The desire for another human being to know you, all of you, all the pieces, even the ones you're ashamed of — is huge. But too often, we sit down and sort through the pieces only picking out the pretty ones, … [Read more...] about What It Means To Hold Space for the Bereaved
A Keeping It Real Post In the last 48 hours, the world's reaction to the news of Kobe Bryant's tragic death has gone from shock to sadness to anger. Many rape survivors are understandably angry at the collective outpouring of grief for this man, who seems to have gotten … [Read more...] about When Love was Complicated, the Grief is Too
"I belong to the people I love, and they belong to me. They, and the love and loyalty I give them, form my identity far more than any word or group ever could." Veronica Roth, Allegiant A Keeping It Real Post When your husband dies, he takes part of you with him. I'm not … [Read more...] about Widowhood Stole My Identity. I’m Throwing Off the Shackles and Taking It Back.
A Friends and Family Post Thursday is American Thanksgiving and the kickoff to the holiday season. It's also a time that has the potential to be extra painful to the bereaved. I've written a bunch on this, so consider this a gentle reminder and request: please, say their … [Read more...] about Say Their Names