A Keeping It Real Post In the last 48 hours, the world's reaction to the news of Kobe Bryant's tragic death has gone from shock to sadness to anger. Many rape survivors are understandably angry at the collective outpouring of grief for this man, who seems to have gotten … [Read more...] about When Love was Complicated, the Grief is Too
Healing
Widowhood Stole My Identity. I’m Throwing Off the Shackles and Taking It Back.
"I belong to the people I love, and they belong to me. They, and the love and loyalty I give them, form my identity far more than any word or group ever could." Veronica Roth, Allegiant A Keeping It Real Post When your husband dies, he takes part of you with him. I'm not … [Read more...] about Widowhood Stole My Identity. I’m Throwing Off the Shackles and Taking It Back.
Funerals, Gratitude, and the End of A Journey
A Keeping It Real Post This week I attended my first funeral since D's. For those of you keeping track, it's been over three years. I don't remember much about his funeral. It was a week after he died. I remember stressing about the fact his ashes weren't back from the … [Read more...] about Funerals, Gratitude, and the End of A Journey
Invisibility: The Hidden Side Effect of Widowhood
"All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others." Virginia Woolf, To the Lighthouse A Keeping It Real Post There is a … [Read more...] about Invisibility: The Hidden Side Effect of Widowhood
Grief Counseling and the Bereaved (aka Why I Keep my GC on speed dial)
A Coping With Grief Post As I was preparing to leave town for another trek across Europe, I got my usual frenzy of appointments on the calendar for my last week. One of those was with my grief counselor. A friend of mine was surprised and asked why I was still seeing her. … [Read more...] about Grief Counseling and the Bereaved (aka Why I Keep my GC on speed dial)
Pruning Dead Wood
“There is no true loss in authentic growth, only the natural process of letting go, outgrowing, pruning. The call of the next level requires it. Those who resist the connective opportunities that life brings to grow to their next level, never reach the mental … [Read more...] about Pruning Dead Wood