A Keeping It Real Post September is Suicide Prevention Month. I won't bore you with a rehash of the ugly details of this small chapter of my story, but feel free to dive into the archives if you're new. Short version: in the depths of my worst pain, fueled by pills and … [Read more...] about Widowhood, Pandemic, and Suicide
Healing
My Re-Birth Day
A Keeping It Real Post Last week, on D's deathiversary, I posted a photo on my social media and called it my Re-Birth Day. And while I don't feel the need to explain myself to the raised eyebrows, I want to. After D's first deathiversary, when I collapsed in a drunk, … [Read more...] about My Re-Birth Day
Year Four: Widowhood Is Still Teaching Me to Live My Best Life
A Keeping It Real Post Today marks four years since I began this unwilling journey called Widowhood. Four years? Really? It feels like both an eternity and a blink of an eye. And while things haven't turned out how I'd planned, it has been the best year ever. I'm getting … [Read more...] about Year Four: Widowhood Is Still Teaching Me to Live My Best Life
Somatic Memory and Deathiversaries
On nights like this I wear that dress you like and slow dance with your memory ~Lisa Bain A Coping Post This week, two families who are dear to my heart, are dealing with the worst milestone a griever can face: that first deathiversary. As I was checking in to … [Read more...] about Somatic Memory and Deathiversaries
A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation: Widow to Widow
A Keeping It Real Post How is everyone holding up? Shit got real, fast, didn't it? I'm on Day 13 of isolation and won't lie; it's getting to me. I've already survived the worst thing in the world, so this is just something else to get through. But that knowledge doesn't … [Read more...] about A Widow’s Guide to Self-Isolation: Widow to Widow
Holding Space For The Bereaved, Part 2 (Widow to Widow)
A Keeping It Real Post Last week I wrote about what it meant for friends and family to hold space for the newly bereaved. Thank you for all the comments, private messages, and emails regarding this topic and your personal experiences. Holding Space is clearly a grief … [Read more...] about Holding Space For The Bereaved, Part 2 (Widow to Widow)