"All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others." Virginia Woolf, To the Lighthouse A Keeping It Real Post There is a … [Read more...] about Invisibility: The Hidden Side Effect of Widowhood
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Widows and Wildflowers
“There is poetry among the wildflowers.” Rachel Irene Stevenson A Keeping It Real Post When I was in Bristol a few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to see Calendar Girls on stage at the Hippodrome. A musical in a historic theater? And based on a true story? Yes, please! I … [Read more...] about Widows and Wildflowers
Keep Climbing, Girl (What ancient cathedrals remind us about the grief recovery process.)
A Coping With Grief Post When I was in Durham last week, the Durham Cathedral, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, was at the top of my "must-see" list. Of all the European cathedrals I've toured, Durham was one of the few not covered in scaffolding at the time of my visit. It … [Read more...] about Keep Climbing, Girl (What ancient cathedrals remind us about the grief recovery process.)
The Duality of Widowhood
“A mermaid is not frightened by her own duality. She is a walking contradiction of piety and lust, sobriety and ecstasy, brilliance and stubbornness, the sacred and the scandalous...so dance with your own inner paradox.” Margot Datz, A Survival Guide for Landlocked … [Read more...] about The Duality of Widowhood
Top 5 Widow Lessons Learned: Year 3
Language alert! Sorry, Mom. A Keeping It Real Post Today marks three years since Dan died. Holy fuck, dudes! It feels like an eternity has passed (haha) since that awful morning where I watched him take his last breath. Today I sit here, back in England, where … [Read more...] about Top 5 Widow Lessons Learned: Year 3
Grief Counseling and the Bereaved (aka Why I Keep my GC on speed dial)
A Coping With Grief Post As I was preparing to leave town for another trek across Europe, I got my usual frenzy of appointments on the calendar for my last week. One of those was with my grief counselor. A friend of mine was surprised and asked why I was still seeing her. … [Read more...] about Grief Counseling and the Bereaved (aka Why I Keep my GC on speed dial)